Remeber when…

>Ah, young love.

I get to relive it all over again vicariously through my daughter. At fourteen, she’s prettier than I’ve ever been, and smarter, sassier, more confident, more athletic more savvy than I was even at twenty. She’s also a really great kid.

Sure, we’ve had some rough spots, but we’ve come a long way and found a comfortable place together–for now. I know it will change. Everything changes. So, I’m enjoying the innocence of young love while it lasts.

She’s liked one boy in particular for about six months (a long time by teenage standards). I’ve met him, he’s cute (tall, dark and cute), shy, polite. He’s got a few stumbling blocks–divorced parents, each remarried who care more about their new spouses than about him. But, from what I’ve heard through my daughter and my daughters friends (and the parent networking of a small town), he’s a pretty decent kid, too.

He hasn’t admitted to liking her yet. So, we’ll see. She knows she’s not allowed to “date” until she’s sixteen, and even then she’s going to have some strict limits, but of course there’s little I can do about her liking a boy and him liking her back.

Fortunately, she’s incredibly open with me. The minute she gets in the car after school or track practice, she tells me what transpired that day. It’s always something small that makes her glow, makes those dimples pop into her cheeks when she smiles. “He texted me first today.” “He laughed at my joke.” “He ran laps with me at track.” “He gave me that smile, you know the one.”

God, she’s giddy with the infatuation. And I’m telling you, it’s infectious.

Yesterday, she said they fought all day. When I asked what that meant, turned out they were playing all day–tripping each other, pushing each other, stealing backpacks. She thought it was all fun and games, I knew it was an excuse to touch each other.

Today, she comes to the car wearing a sweatshirt I don’t recognize. “Whose is that?” I ask.

She says, “Wait, I’ll show you.” She takes off her backback and turns around. His last name is sprawled across the back.

When she turned back to me, her eyes were sparkling bright, deep dimples in her cheeks, straight, white teeth (where she got any of those, I don’t know) grinning at me. I could feel her excitement. My own chest got tight, my heart beat a little faster, my body felt lighter.

“Where’d you get that?” I asked. “Or, rather, how did you get it and why did you get it?” And what exactly does it mean?…but I didn’t ask that one.

“I stole it,” she says with a sly smirk. “It was lying on the bench, so I took it and put it on.”

“Doesn’t he want it back?” I ask.

“No. He said I could wear it.” She does a luscious eye roll. “And it smells so good. It smells like him. I’ve been getting high from the smell of it all afternoon.”

Oh. My. God. She is so damn cute.

I laugh. “He owns you now, girl. He’s got his name plastered across your back.”

“Uh-uh. No way. I own him.”

Sigh. I wish I had that kind of self-assurance when I was 14. Or 20. Or 30. At least I have it now.

As romance writers, we could learn a lot by observing and reliving those first delicious stages of interest, attraction, infatuation and love.

What do you remember (or relive via children) about young love?

>Inspiration

>I really need it today. I had another hole drilled in my bucket.

Only amateurs say that they write for their own amusement. Writing is not an amusing occupation. It is a combination of ditch-digging, mountain-climbing, treadmill and childbirth. Writing may be interesting, absorbing, exhilarating, racking, relieving. But amusing? Never!

~~ Edna Ferber
Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep.
~~ Scott Adams

All good writing is swimming under water and holding your breath.
~~ F. Scott Fitzgerald

If you did not write every day, the poisons would accumulate and you would begin to die, or act crazy or both — you must stay drunk on writing so reality cannot destroy you.
~~ Ray Bradbury

The difference between fiction and reality? Fiction has to make sense.
~~ Tom Clancy

Inspiration

>I really need it today. I had another hole drilled in my bucket.

Only amateurs say that they write for their own amusement. Writing is not an amusing occupation. It is a combination of ditch-digging, mountain-climbing, treadmill and childbirth. Writing may be interesting, absorbing, exhilarating, racking, relieving. But amusing? Never!

~~ Edna Ferber
Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep.
~~ Scott Adams

All good writing is swimming under water and holding your breath.
~~ F. Scott Fitzgerald

If you did not write every day, the poisons would accumulate and you would begin to die, or act crazy or both — you must stay drunk on writing so reality cannot destroy you.
~~ Ray Bradbury

The difference between fiction and reality? Fiction has to make sense.
~~ Tom Clancy

>Cookies are in!!

>Girl Scout cookies are here! An my garage is FILLED with them. 111 CASES to be exact.

From Jan – March, I am officially, the Cookie Nazi! (A.K.A. Cookie mom.)

And I was going to start back on my healthy eating and excercise road on Monday! My goal is to lose the remaining 24 pounds I’d like to lose (lost 26 already) before Nationals in July. And now — those DANG cookies are calling to me from the garage.

The new flavor this year is named Lemonades. Oh. My. God. Shortbread cookies with vanilla-lemon icing. They are to die for (and I’m not even a big lemon fan).

Here’s a complete list:
  • Caramel deLights: coconut, caramel and chocolate
  • Shortbread: traditional shortbread recipe
  • Thanks-A-Lot: shortbread with chocolate
  • Thin Mints: Chocolate mint wafer with chocolate coating
  • Peanut Butter Patties: peanut butter wafer with creammy filling and chocolate coating
  • Peanut Butter Sandwich: peanut butter wafers with creamy peanut butter-flavored filling
  • Cartwheels: Oatmeal and cinnamon–low-fat, too.
  • Lemonades: Described above.
This is soooo not good.

What IS good is that this year the Girl Scouts have put together a donation program. If you’d like to donate cookies to the U.S. Military troops overseas, you can pay the regular $4 a box and GS will ship the cookies.

The donation is tax deductable when you buy for troops (as opposed to buying for yourself) so, it’s a great thing.

You should buy from those girls you’ll be seeing stationed outside your supermarkets and drug stores, etc. Or, you could buy through me and pay via Paypal. I’ll even kick in the deduction Paypal takes for the transaction, and mail you the deducation form. If you live somewhere where you don’t have access to these delicacies and don’t mind paying the shipping, I’ll send them to you also.

E-mail me at ultraswan @ hotmail . com (without spaces, of course) if you’re interested.

Remember – almost $1 per box goes directly to the local girl scout troop, so support your neighborhood girls!

Cookies are in!!

>Girl Scout cookies are here! An my garage is FILLED with them. 111 CASES to be exact.

From Jan – March, I am officially, the Cookie Nazi! (A.K.A. Cookie mom.)

And I was going to start back on my healthy eating and excercise road on Monday! My goal is to lose the remaining 24 pounds I’d like to lose (lost 26 already) before Nationals in July. And now — those DANG cookies are calling to me from the garage.

The new flavor this year is named Lemonades. Oh. My. God. Shortbread cookies with vanilla-lemon icing. They are to die for (and I’m not even a big lemon fan).

Here’s a complete list:
  • Caramel deLights: coconut, caramel and chocolate
  • Shortbread: traditional shortbread recipe
  • Thanks-A-Lot: shortbread with chocolate
  • Thin Mints: Chocolate mint wafer with chocolate coating
  • Peanut Butter Patties: peanut butter wafer with creammy filling and chocolate coating
  • Peanut Butter Sandwich: peanut butter wafers with creamy peanut butter-flavored filling
  • Cartwheels: Oatmeal and cinnamon–low-fat, too.
  • Lemonades: Described above.
This is soooo not good.

What IS good is that this year the Girl Scouts have put together a donation program. If you’d like to donate cookies to the U.S. Military troops overseas, you can pay the regular $4 a box and GS will ship the cookies.

The donation is tax deductable when you buy for troops (as opposed to buying for yourself) so, it’s a great thing.

You should buy from those girls you’ll be seeing stationed outside your supermarkets and drug stores, etc. Or, you could buy through me and pay via Paypal. I’ll even kick in the deduction Paypal takes for the transaction, and mail you the deducation form. If you live somewhere where you don’t have access to these delicacies and don’t mind paying the shipping, I’ll send them to you also.

E-mail me at ultraswan @ hotmail . com (without spaces, of course) if you’re interested.

Remember – almost $1 per box goes directly to the local girl scout troop, so support your neighborhood girls!

>Talk To Me

>

Choosing what to blog about it always a little tricky. You want to be relatively free to do your own thing…it is your blog after all, but you’d like it to be entertaining, informative, something others will want to come back again and again to read.

So…if you could design the perfect blog–your favorite, the one you check in with everyday to see what’s new…what would it have?

~~Long, descriptive posts or short blurbs?
~~Posts everyday or every other or once a week or ??
~~Information or fluff?
~~Serious or funny?
~~Professional or personal?
~~Conservative or wacky?

Here’s my take on it…

  • I come to the web primarily for information.
  • I visit blogs for communication and information.
  • I don’t mind long posts if they stay on topic and offer something valuable (information, a different point of view, etc.).
  • I’m fine with short posts if they have substance. If there’s no substance and it’s just a “can’t-chat-now” blog, then I don’t think it’s worth posting.
  • I don’t mind personal talk unless it’s about washing the car or walking the dog — that I don’t want to know about.
  • I like blogs that offer something others don’t, either a unique point of view or information I don’t get elsewhere.
  • Sometimes I choose to read a blog because I like the person who writes it–they’re warm, personable, responsive, and we have things in common.
  • And I like blogs that are updated every day or every other day. Sometimes everyday is a bit too much and I feel like I’m always falling behind. But after a coupld days of nothing new, my return visits to that blog slow.

How about you?

Talk To Me

>

Choosing what to blog about it always a little tricky. You want to be relatively free to do your own thing…it is your blog after all, but you’d like it to be entertaining, informative, something others will want to come back again and again to read.

So…if you could design the perfect blog–your favorite, the one you check in with everyday to see what’s new…what would it have?

~~Long, descriptive posts or short blurbs?
~~Posts everyday or every other or once a week or ??
~~Information or fluff?
~~Serious or funny?
~~Professional or personal?
~~Conservative or wacky?

Here’s my take on it…

  • I come to the web primarily for information.
  • I visit blogs for communication and information.
  • I don’t mind long posts if they stay on topic and offer something valuable (information, a different point of view, etc.).
  • I’m fine with short posts if they have substance. If there’s no substance and it’s just a “can’t-chat-now” blog, then I don’t think it’s worth posting.
  • I don’t mind personal talk unless it’s about washing the car or walking the dog — that I don’t want to know about.
  • I like blogs that offer something others don’t, either a unique point of view or information I don’t get elsewhere.
  • Sometimes I choose to read a blog because I like the person who writes it–they’re warm, personable, responsive, and we have things in common.
  • And I like blogs that are updated every day or every other day. Sometimes everyday is a bit too much and I feel like I’m always falling behind. But after a coupld days of nothing new, my return visits to that blog slow.

How about you?

>Thursday Thirteen

>


Thirteen Things I’d Do More Often if I Had the Money
…in the order I’d like to do them most.
(**things that take more time than money, but time I dont’ have because I have to work)

1. Travel
2. Pampering (massage, facial, pedicure, etc.)
3. Charity work**
4. Entertain
5. Eat at nice restarants
6. Remodel
7. Landscape
8. Volunteer**
9. Craft (Knit, scrapbook, bead, etc.)
10. Excercise**
11. Write/Read**
12. Shop
13. Relax**

Other Thursday Thirteen Participants:

1. Spyscribbler

The purpose of the meme is to get to know everyone who participates a little bit better every Thursday. Visiting fellow Thirteeners is encouraged! If you participate, leave the link to your Thirteen in others comments. It’s easy, and fun! Be sure to update your Thirteen with links that are left for you, as well! I will link to everyone who participates and leaves a link to their 13 things.

Thursday Thirteen

>


Thirteen Things I’d Do More Often if I Had the Money
…in the order I’d like to do them most.
(**things that take more time than money, but time I dont’ have because I have to work)

1. Travel
2. Pampering (massage, facial, pedicure, etc.)
3. Charity work**
4. Entertain
5. Eat at nice restarants
6. Remodel
7. Landscape
8. Volunteer**
9. Craft (Knit, scrapbook, bead, etc.)
10. Excercise**
11. Write/Read**
12. Shop
13. Relax**

Other Thursday Thirteen Participants:

1. Spyscribbler

The purpose of the meme is to get to know everyone who participates a little bit better every Thursday. Visiting fellow Thirteeners is encouraged! If you participate, leave the link to your Thirteen in others comments. It’s easy, and fun! Be sure to update your Thirteen with links that are left for you, as well! I will link to everyone who participates and leaves a link to their 13 things.

>I’m Getting Sucked In

>

I can feel it. This new topic has snagged my attention like a shiny dime on blacktop.

Sexual Tension.

It’s not because that’s the topic of discussion over at RWKF this week. Sexual tension has been an interest since I read Roxanne St. Claire’s book Dangerous Curves.

I read it because it was an entry in the Daphne Published Division contest and I was a judge. But I immediately noticed this author had a way with attraction and heat and sex. I was so intruigued that after I’d read it and judged it, I reread it for the specific purpose of figuring out just how she kept that spark so friggin’ hot.

As I mentioned in my post on RWKF today, I’m taking a class in Sexual Tension with Mary Buckham. She’s guiding us step by step through the stages of intimacy, explains how the elements relate back to evolution (which also illustrates why these stages are so powerful and meaningful in the sexual cycle) and showing examples in other authors work. The subtlety is amazing, the results awesome. Something I absolutely have to master.

I haven’t been so fascinated with a subject since I took Empowering Character Emotions and The Deep EDITS System with Margie Lawson.

And everyone who knows me knows what happens when I get caught up in something new.

I’m in big trouble.

Are there subjects, either general or writing craft that grab your attention and don’t let go until you’ve thoroughly explored and/or mastered them?